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2 Effective Ways to Deal with Past Hurts


The past can be likened to a museum filled with memories of things that have happened in our lives , both positive and negative, we regularly visit this place, to reflect on the things that have happened, this process has the ability to affect your future in a positive or negative way. Whenever we think about the past, we usually are quick to reflect on the negative experiences we have had, this births fear and have the ability to affect our decision making and the way we handle affairs especially when it comes to relationships. Our good experiences births confidence that we can produce better results and make today better than it was yesterday. The past is the experiences and fears you have had. The good things in the past produce the positives in our future today while the bad things in the past that we have not dealt with produce negatives such as emotional issues, relational difficulties, personality problems and even marriage troubles. If you are going to be successful in future relationships with people, you will have to deal with the past. In order to deal with the past, you will need, to be honest with yourself and consciously and willingly do these things.

  1. Forgive yourself. There is no point beating yourself up over mistakes you have made in the past. Mistakes make us wiser and help us in making better decisions.
  2. Forgive the person that offended you. If you don’t forgive the person who offended you, you might miss the better things coming your way. The simple act of forgiveness can set you free from your past.

A lot of times we have been hurt by people very close to us like relatives, friends, and even partners and we carry around the anger and hurt and tend to let it affect how we deal with new people that we meet. You will need to forget about the things of the past to reach for the better things in the future. Do not allow the regrets of yesterday stop you from making progress today. That is why forgiveness is very important in dealing with the past.

Some people have left our lives and we keep thinking and hoping for them to come back but the truth is there is always a purpose for everything and everyone in our lives. It is possible that person was meant to be in our lives for a short time so we can learn some things from the relationship. If someone decides to leave your life, let he or she go because sometimes we need to let some people go to open room for better people to come in. Mistakes we make often make us better people so you should not be afraid of making any mistake, but you should learn from the mistakes of the past. There is always something better for you despite the fact that the past was filled with hurts and betrayal.

When we do all these, our baggage drops off of us and our past truly becomes the past with no negative influence in our lives today.

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Chinye Onwamaka is a professional makeup artist and fashion consultant based in Lagos Nigeria. She writes about fashion, beauty and relationship tips for young people.

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